I don't do this often (get on my soap box), nor should I really, but I'm in a mood this morning ..
Men these days, at this age (30's) need to get it together, seriously. This isn't a man bashing session, it's just some things I've observed while I've been in the dating scene, off and on for almost 4 years now.
Here goes ..
Learn to respect a woman's morals and values. Don't be "expecting" anything until she is dang good and ready. We may very well be in our 30's, but I'm sorry, it doesn't mean our morals are thrown out the window. Respect that.
Pick up the dang phone and call sometime. Texting is great, and I'm a texter (hello - millennial), but if you think you'll constantly swoon a woman by a text, you are out of your mind.
Be reliable, punctual and plan things. This last minute crap is for the birds. We aren't kids anymore, we have lives, careers, children possibly, own homes, travel, you name it. No, I won't go out with you the same day you ask me, nor the day before, that's not how it works. Make an initiative to plan a date - a real one, not a "meet up" while you're all out with friends. Get it together.
And, what's with this non-commitment stuff? I'm not looking for you to marry me tomorrow, hell even a year from now, but you better bet your butt I am expecting you to get serious with me after a few months of dating. A little thing called "exclusivity" isn't the end of the world. You are in your 30's btw .. You're not getting any younger, and those nights out at the bar with the 21 year old's have to be getting a little old by now, and soon enough you're going to be "that guy". Just saying.
Lastly, can we just talk about manners? My goodness. Call me old school if you will, but in my eyes it's the mans duty to pick up the check, to be a gentleman holding and opening doors for women, letting the woman order first at a restaurant, following up with her after a date, walking on the exterior side of her along a roadside and for goodness sake - send/bring the woman some flowers every once in awhile!
I really could go on and on with things I've experienced in the dating scene that would literally shock you or make you laugh until you cried. It's sad, but funny really. However, all I can say is please men - can you get it together?
Jumping off my soap box and signing off,